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It is really sad that in our society in 2008 many mothers who do not want custody, are not cut out to be custodians are keeping their children to avoid being stigmatized. It’s true, ask your friends. I bet you if you ask your friends what they think of a woman who gives up custody to the father they’ll say that she’s not much of a mother.

Mothers who should give up custody are keeping the children in order to get child support and other benefits and the courts are biased enough in favor of women to allow it to happen. As a society we are biased and we think nurtring is the domain of women, of mothers.

This thinking is really hurting women and children in the long run. It marginalizes the importance of fathers, and it holds women back from reaching their full potentional in their careers.

If you are a mom who doesn’t want to have full custody of your children after the divorce, don’t hold back, offer the settlement to your ex and you might be surprised at the outcome. Most men do not ask for childsupport, and some are even willing to keep paying alimony. You never know if you don’t ask.

As far as the view of others, stand up for yourself. Tell people the truth, your’e not cut out for being a single parent, you want to succeed in your career, or whatever you true reasons are, don’t hold back because you have nothing to be ashamed of, men have been doing it for generations.