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I understand that divorce is hard. I know it. Nevertheless, if you are getting a divorce and you cannot stop it through counseling or reasonable measures, and it’s basically a done deal, stop being stupid and unreasonable!Don’t expect that your ex can continue supporting you in the manner that you were previously supported when you were married. It just cannot happen. There are two households now to take care of. Be reasonable about the money. If you’re one of the lucky few who married a rich man then fine, but if your soon to be ex makes 12 dollars an hour, sorry, he has to live too.  I don’t care if he’s a total jerk, he has to pay rent, pay for gas, and food too. Not to mention that he has to have a place for the children to visit that is safe and clean. My advice is to get a job and do not depend on him to support you. Yes, he should pay child support if he is the non-custodial parent. I am not saying he shouldn’t. But you cannot expect him to give you half of his paycheck and then live off the other half. At 12 dollars an hour, he’ll only be bringing home about 700 every two weeks after taxes and withholdings especially because he is now a single man, unlike you, who gets to file as head of household.So forget alimony, and forget asking for over guideline support. Stick to the guidelines, they are mostly fair depending upon where you live, and go get a job. 

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